When workaholism is seen as positive and gets rewarded, or it keeps you out of the firing line, then it might be hard to stop even if you’re burnt out and holding on by the thinnest hair.
I recently saw that the CEO of Wayfair wrote, “Working long hours, being responsive, blending work and life, is not anything to shy away from. There is not a lot of history of laziness being rewarded with success. Hard work is an essential ingredient in any recipe for success.” Yikes on bikes!
When you see that other black and brown people, are penalized more harshly for the same errors committed by their counterparts, then it’s very hard to say, ”just let go of perfectionism.” A company displaying this type of behavior is not only fostering perfectionism, but also enabling racial bias and discrimination.
When you notice that your friends relentlessly make fun of the smart students with good grades, you may not notice that you have been sabotaging your grades to hide how smart you are out of fear that they will start making fun of you and stopping being your friend.
When you are working at a company where you have to prove why you deserve a raise and your supervisor mentions some performative hoops that you need to jump through (overachieving), when you’re already working TWO full time jobs and only getting [UNDER]paid for one.
When, you are afraid to accept praise and recognition for your work as one of two women on your team, because you recently learned that your peers have been spreading rumors that you’re ascent is based on sexual favors and not on your intelligence and work ethic.